You may find yourself in a family situation that insists on inviting every relative on the planet and you just may not have a choice, there will be more tips later on how to be sustainable with those crazy 400-guest parties, don't fret!
Every guest incurs a portion of food, a place setting, a chair, a napkin, a place card, a favor (more on those later), an invitation, a thank you note, hors d'oeuvres, a beverage or two, travel to and from, possibly a hotel room, a fancy outfit, a gift...it all adds up - alarmingly! If you drop only 10 people from your list, that's an entire table of all the above listed bits and pieces.
This is the area of most impact on both budget and sustainability so consider carefully who really needs to be a witness to one of the most spiritually intimate moments of your life with your partner. Ask yourselves some tough questions: Who is this person? Why are we being asked to invite them? Is it for my mother's business relationships or because it's my Mum's best friend? Am I really angling for a lot of money or gifts? (be honest!) What is this person's relationship to our relationship? Who's wedding is this anyway? Will my Father never speak to me again if we don't invite his dentist (this is important too!)? Remember also that you won't be able to see and chat to everyone if you have a wedding of more than 150 people, and even that's a stretch.
Ultimately what really matters is that you and your beloved show up and some official type person to perform the legal part of the ceremony (you could even grab a witness off the street if you had to). Everything else - the guests, the ribbon colours, the shape of the napkin art, the canapes - all just added gravy to the special moment between you. At the very moment of you two making your commitment - you will not see, hear or care about anything else. Embrace the singleness of that moment and don't sweat the rest.
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